The Real Reasons You Haven’t Booked Your Boudoir Shoot—Yet | Denver Boudoir Studio

Overcoming Common Fears Before Your Denver Boudoir Photography Session

After nearly two decades in this work, I’ve heard just about every reason to put off booking a boudoir session. Most of them sound valid at first glance — but when we look a little closer, they’re often rooted in fear, comparison, or the belief that we need to be “more” of something before we’re worthy of being seen.

This post isn’t here to push you. It’s here to gently invite you to rethink the stories that might be keeping you small — and offer a new one: one where you take up space, just as you are.

“I don’t have enough time for myself.”

This one is deeply personal for so many of us. As women, we’re constantly pouring into everyone else. Kids, partners, work, errands — your calendar fills up with everyone else’s needs, and carving out time just for you starts to feel selfish. Or indulgent. Or unnecessary.

But here’s the truth: time for yourself isn’t a luxury. It’s a necessity. Especially the kind that reconnects you with the parts of yourself that tend to get buried under daily life.

Boudoir isn’t just a photoshoot — it’s an experience centered entirely around you. From our first call to your image reveal, the entire process is supportive, stress-free, and thoughtfully designed so that you can simply show up and be held. Taking this time doesn’t take away from anyone else — it fills you up so you can return to your world feeling more seen, more grounded, and more like yourself.

“I need to lose weight first…”

You’re not alone in feeling this way — this is probably the number one thing women say before booking. But let me say this as clearly as I can: there is no version of your body that is more deserving of celebration than the one you’re in right now.

We don’t wait to honor a friend until they look “better.” We don’t love our children more when they’re thinner. We don’t value our memories based on what our arms looked like in them. So why do we hold ourselves to that standard?

Your session is about you, not the scale. It’s about showing you the beauty, power, and complexity that already lives in your body — and helping you feel confident in it. During your planning process, we’ll talk about what you love, what you’re still learning to love, and how we’ll pose you to highlight the features that make you feel amazing. The goal isn’t perfection — it’s presence.

You don’t need to shrink to be worthy of taking up space.

“Boudoir is expensive”

Yes — this is an investment. Not just financially, but emotionally and mentally. But it’s also one of the most profound things you can do for yourself.

Boudoir isn’t just about stunning images (though yes, you’ll have those). It’s about how you feel every time you look at them. It’s about the shift that happens when you see yourself through a different lens — and finally recognize all the beauty and strength that’s been there all along.

This isn’t a splurge. It’s a reminder. That you are powerful, worthy, and deserving of something that is just for you. It’s an experience you carry with you — in your confidence, in how you walk through the world, in how you speak to yourself on the hard days.

We offer flexible payment options because I believe this work is for you. And you are absolutely worth it.

“I don’t know how to be sexy”

Good news — you don’t need to be.

Sexy isn’t a category you fit into. It isn’t a bra size or a specific look. It’s a feeling that comes from being present in your body, unapologetic in your energy, and connected to your own story. And that looks different on everyone.

Maybe sexy for you is soft, quiet, and vulnerable. Maybe it’s playful and bold. Maybe it’s somewhere in between. You don’t need to know what that looks like walking in — that’s part of what we’ll explore together. I’ll guide you through posing, expression, and energy so that nothing feels forced. You just have to bring you.

You don’t have to be “sexy.” You just have to be real. That’s where the magic lives.

“I wouldn’t know what to wear.”

You’re not expected to have it all figured out. That’s what I’m here for.

Before your session, we’ll go over what styles and pieces will photograph beautifully and feel most comfortable for you. Whether you want to wear cozy knits, your favorite lingerie, a silky robe, or even just a white tank and jeans — we’ll create a wardrobe plan that fits you and the story you want to tell.

The best pieces are the ones that feel like a natural extension of you. No need to go on a shopping spree or step into something that feels like a costume. Just bring what feels good — and I’ll help guide the rest.

“I’m too old / too awkward / not the ‘type’ for this”

If you’ve ever thought, “I’m not sure this is for me,” I want to assure you: it is.

There’s no age limit on feeling beautiful. No size, shape, personality type, or life experience that disqualifies you from being celebrated.

I’ve photographed women in their twenties and in their seventies. Women going through divorce, women starting new careers, women becoming mothers or rediscovering themselves after decades of caregiving. Women who felt nervous, awkward, unsure — and left glowing.

You’re not too anything. You’re exactly right. And your story, in this moment, is worth capturing.

Ready to see yourself differently?
If any of these reasons felt familiar — you’re not alone. But maybe this is the moment to stop waiting for the right time and realize that the right time might be now.

We’ll walk you through every step of the process with care, clarity, and zero pressure. This isn’t just a photoshoot. It’s a reclamation. It’s a gift to your future self. And it starts with a conversation.